— Set up a rewards system. “Your child’s efforts to meet their daily report card goals will depend on the incentives and rewards you provide,” the center says. Allow your child to create the menu of rewards — with your approval, of course. This, the experts say, will increase their motivation to meet their goals.
Rewards can include screen time, a special treat, art time, a day off from chores and staying up 30 minutes past bedtime. In our day, we liked getting comic books for good school reports. But that was a long time ago.
— Monitor their progress. Let your child know throughout the day if they are meeting their goals. Remind them what that goal is. Be encouraging, especially if they are struggling. Keep it a positive experience.
— Praise your child. Let them know they did a great job when they have – with genuine, specific or labeled praise. FIU suggests a way to express this: “I love how you stayed at the table and finished all your math assignments.”
— Provide the reward. Connect the reward to the goals. A suggested way to handle this: “You’re doing such a great job working hard on your math. You definitely earned that screen time today.”
— Tweak goals and rewards. As they respond to the DRC, they should be able to meet behavior targets more consistently, FIU’s center believes. When that happens, raise the bar. If you had built in three or fewer violations into the goal of following class rules, make it two or fewer next time. And so forth.. If you see your child is no longer motivated by a reward, change it to maintain their interest. Maybe pizza for dinner or getting Taylor Swift’s new album might be more enticing.